Episode 204

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15th Sep 2025

EAP 204 : From Dysfunction to Dad Nation – Mitchell Osmond’s Blueprint for Home, Health and Happiness

In this inspiring episode of the Early Accountability Podcast, host Kimi Walker welcomes Mitchell Osmond, high-performance coach and founder of Dad Nation, a transformative movement and podcast empowering career-driven men to reclaim their home, health, and happiness. Mitchell opens up about his powerful personal journey—growing up in a dysfunctional family, grappling with self-sabotage, and facing financial, marital, and health crises, only to transform his life and now uplift thousands of men through his mission-based community and coaching practice. 

Throughout the conversation, Kimi and Mitchell dive into the challenges that high-performing individuals face when trying to balance professional ambition with personal relationships and self-care. Mitchell shares the practical frameworks he uses, including the Life Report Card, boundary setting, and his “four Cs” of leadership: community, clarity, consistency, and confidence. Whether discussing how to define success on your own terms, strategies for creating lasting habits, or the importance of modeling legacy for your family, Mitchell offers actionable wisdom and a reminder that true impact starts at home—and that intentionality, accountability, and grace are the keys to lasting change. 

Topics Covered in This Episode 

  • Reclaiming home, health, and happiness through intentional accountability 
  • The “Life Report Card” and redefining balance across life’s seasons 
  • How to set clear boundaries and prioritize what truly matters 
  • The four pillars of leadership: community, clarity, consistency, and confidence 
  • Building legacy by modeling behaviors and breaking generational cycles 
  • Systems, time-blocking, and the Eisenhower Matrix for focus and impact 

About Mitchell Osmond 

Mitchell Osmond is a leadership consultant, executive coach, and host of the Dad Nation Podcast, which reaches over 34,000 monthly listeners. With more than 15 years of senior leadership experience, Mitchell is passionate about helping high-performing individuals thrive not just in their careers, but also in their homes and personal lives. Through coaching, speaking engagements, and his digital presence, Mitchell empowers men to lead with purpose, balance success across all areas of life, and build lasting legacies. His mission is clear—help leaders win at work without losing at home. 

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Okay, Kimi Walker here and welcome back to the next episode of the

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Early Accountability Podcast.

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Today here on the show we have Mitchell, who is the host of

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the Dad Nation podcast, which is actually more than just a podcast.

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It's actually really a movement.

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We have over, over 34,000 monthly listeners on the podcast alone.

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So Mitchell, why don't you come and first just tell us about what is that nation?

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How did you start this?

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What is this?

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And tell us just a little bit more about you and your background.

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Yeah, so well, thank you first of all for having me on the show, Kimi.

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I really appreciate this and I'm looking forward to having this

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conversation with you and your listeners.

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But for me what Dad Nation is just simply, like you said, it's a movement

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of men who really want to become better.

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For their families, for themselves, to re you know the slogan we use is to

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reclaim their home health and happiness.

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And so the three things we talk a lot about are people who want to have stronger

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marriages, who want to be in better shape, not just for themselves, but to

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model this for their children and for men who want to have more self-confidence

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and eliminate that self-sabotage.

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A lot of my clients and a lot of my listeners.

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Lot of the people in the community are, yeah.

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Which you would call 'em high performers or people who have built businesses,

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CEOs, VPs, things like that, who have seen professional success but are struggling.

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Their life is a bit of a personal mess, if you will, and and they've

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acquired wealth, they've acquired businesses, all that stuff.

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But now they're turning around, they're saying.

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I have all this money, but I don't even know how to talk to my own wife,

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or I don't know my kids anymore, or I've gained 50 pounds, or I

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got a bad health diagnosis, or I'm struggling with the imposter syndrome.

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What do I do now?

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And so the whole mission of the dad nation is to help men show up more powerfully.

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Just as powerfully at home as they do at work.

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And so I let, that's a bit of the mission and the reason why I

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started this was because I grew up in a dysfunctional home myself.

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I was raised my home was marked by alcohol, crime,

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drug abuse, things like that.

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I had an alcoholic father.

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And so I struggled a lot in my life and and grew up in the midst of

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this sort of dysfunctional home.

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And, I was the youngest of three and I had a bit of a savior complex.

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I was always trying to keep things together for the family.

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I was the golden child, if you will.

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And I thought I had it handled, but then I got married and then

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the wounds really of my childhood began to bleed out into my marriage.

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And three years in we found ourselves on the verge of divorce.

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I was let go of the senior leadership position and I was

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50 pounds, 60 pounds overweight.

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We were over a hundred grand in debt.

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And I was medicating with alcohol and drugs, just trying to deal with my own

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frustration with where I was at in life.

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And I was about to lose my wife.

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And there was a moment I had at a funeral.

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I was singing at this funeral, I'm a musician as well, just for

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fun, but it the funeral was of this philanthropic wealthy man.

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And as the pastor was wrapping up the message, he asked the congregation, are

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you living a life worthy of imitation?

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And as I began to strap out my guitar and play.

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The last song, I could barely choke at the lyrics because I thought to myself in

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that moment, man, if I walk out of this church and I get hit by a bus, nobody is

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gonna say, man, I wanna live like Mitch.

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I wanna have the marriage he had, I wanna have the bank account He

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had, all those different things.

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And so the next day I got to work and I took ownership.

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And within a year and a half.

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We completely restored our marriage.

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I lost 60 pounds, became lean, confident, paid off the a hundred grand of

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debt, got clean, got sober, and began to just help my friends around me.

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'cause obviously they were all like, what are you doing, man?

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What's going on?

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How are you doing this?

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Which then led me to launch the podcast to share these principles with the world.

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And then before I knew it, I had people ch chiming in all over North America and then

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asking me, Hey, could you help me too?

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And that's what launched my coaching practice.

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So over the last year and a half, this is relatively new, but over the last year

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and a half I've launched the podcast and launched a six figure coaching practice

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based off of the principles that I've learned in applying it to my own life.

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And that's how I got here.

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Oh wow, that's awesome.

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So I love, so you have a lot about holistic success and early action.

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It's just intertwined into you.

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So here at early accountability, we're really about those early stages of a new

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endeavor or a lifestyle shift, right?

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Or a pivot, whether it's personally or professionally.

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And you've done both in both sectors.

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What would you say is critical?

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And as far as like thinking of early accountability when it comes to setting

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the foundation for someone who feels like they need to go and start to

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achieve more holistic balance, like you said okay, my finances, my personal

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relationships, my this, I need to become more balanced holistically,

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and a lot of different domains.

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What do you say are some steps or some things that you say or that you

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give in coaching as far as Hey, what are some, what's that early start?

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What's the kind of game plan?

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What's the coaching look like that, right?

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What are some strategies you give for starting strong?

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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So that's a great question and thank you for asking it, Kimi.

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I think there's two things that immediately come to mind.

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Number one is, and I struggle a little bit the word with the word of balance,

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because every different season.

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Is different and requires different things of you.

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And so I do an exercise with my clients called the Life Report Card.

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And we do this every quarter.

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And the reason why we do this and I'll come back to the second point about

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beginning with the end of mind, but the life report card exercise, it's,

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because we've been grown up in the education system that taught us what

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do you, what's the goal in school?

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Straight A's, get an A in everything possible no matter what.

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And we were raised in that kind of system.

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And but realistically, if you were a parent, if you have, a job, you

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got multiple kids, you want to get in shape, you wanna do all

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these different things, you can't always be an a plus in everything.

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And so there's gonna be some seasons where you might have to.

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Turn that A into a B, or maybe even a B minus.

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When my first son was born, I was like, oh, I can't train

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six times a week anymore.

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Okay, so now that a plus is gonna become maybe a B minus, and that's okay for

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a season until I get a new rhythm.

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So understanding and having grace for yourself.

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And knowing that this is a journey success, these pivots, you have

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to have grace with yourself and understand that there is no such

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thing as a perfect linear line.

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That there's it, there's gonna be, there's gonna be adversities,

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there's gonna be challenges, but over the course of the, the journey,

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you're on an upward trajectory.

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So helping clients get really clear on what's most important

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in this season, right?

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Maybe we.

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We spend a little less time together because I gotta push in this career

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for a moment or maybe I pull back from work a little bit because

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I need to invest in my marriage.

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Those different things.

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And so having clarity about that, understanding the season you're in, and

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knowing what's required of you, and being okay with maybe letting some things just.

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Putting some things on the back burner.

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You're essentially, if you picture just the stove top, you're essentially

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just moving pots around, right?

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Every different season.

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And so the second thing when you start that journey with giving yourself

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grace and understanding that, that this journey will come with adversities

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and movement, and that's part of it.

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The second thing we need to do is to begin with the end in mind.

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Okay?

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Stephen Covey in his book, the Seven Habits of Highly Effective

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People, which are one of the most famous books written on leadership

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development number or chapter two is called Begin With the End in Mind.

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Napoleon Hill says, begin with the end in mind.

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And so we must know where we're going.

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We must define and determine what success looks like for us.

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Because if so for example, Kimi, if I said to you, I wanna go to the beach, let's

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go to the beach, and I just hit beach.

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The GPS, that could take me through the west coast to the east coast, south.

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It could take me wherever, right?

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And I don't know if I'm gonna be happy with where I end up.

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So I have to get very clear on what, where I'm going and what I'm doing.

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And for example, with a lot of the clients I work with, I actually

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walk them through a eulogy exercise.

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It was very visceral.

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And, I essentially fabricate that funeral moment I had.

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And I say, and I get them to write their own eulogy from the

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perspective of their spouse or from the perspective of the children.

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What would you like them to say about the man that you are, or the mother

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you are, whoever, when your time is up and you're gonna write that out.

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And if you were to die today, what would they say about you?

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And that gap between who you are today and how you want to be known

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by your children and the people you love the most, the legacy that you're

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leaving or how you want to be known.

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That gap is where we need to grow, right?

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That gap is where that tension comes in, that sometimes that frustration

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where I'm not who I'm called to be, I'm not living up to my full potential.

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And so beginning with the end of mind, getting very clear on exactly

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what success looks like for me, and then reverse engineering that.

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Into yearly, monthly, weekly daily action steps to see that future come to fruition.

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Does that make sense?

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Absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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You brought up a good point just about, like you said who

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are you, who do you show up?

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How did these people look at you and view you?

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So you have a lot of experience in leadership, so over 15 years in

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leadership, senior leadership at that, what practices or mindsets have you

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found to be very effective when it comes to I guess your long-term vision

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or goals and being able to balance like your leadership development but also

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your personal growth, especially if you have a lot of professional demands.

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And I think why I think this is really important, I really wanted to

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talk about it too, especially coming from like the dad nation or man.

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There's a lot of times a lot of expectations, I think, in society

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and personally to be, may really to be like the leader or to take care

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of, or if something happens, you have to be able to like handle this.

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What kind of mindset shifts or modalities would you suggest in

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that realm or what have you done?

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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So I'm gonna hit you with it.

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I'm just writing some things down as I'm thinking about 'em,

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'cause I don't wanna lose them.

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So for me there's four major qualities that I see the most successful leaders.

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There are four qualities that that these, that when I embodied them, they're

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what really turned my life around.

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Okay.

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So number one is community.

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Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who

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your ceiling is their floor.

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That they live where you want to be.

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You understand what I mean?

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These people will come around you, they'll support you.

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They will not only, they'll, not only will they show you what's possible

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in your life, but they'll give you the exact steps to get there,

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and they'll hold you accountable because it's gonna be hard, right?

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There's gonna be challenges.

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Like we said, you're gonna face adversity, so surrounding yourself with men or

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women or whatever your situation is.

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With people who can hold you to the standard that you're setting for yourself

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or the success that you say that you want.

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That's why I created the Dad Nation Coalition.

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It's literally a community of men who are like-minded, who want to

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see success in their home, their health and their happiness, right?

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We hold each other accountable.

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So that's number one.

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Community.

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Number two, they're all Cs.

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I love alliteration.

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The second one is clarity.

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Like I alluded to this before.

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Getting crystal clear on where you want to go so that when you

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get there, you know you're there.

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Most people don't even know what they want.

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Some of my clients are like seven, seven figure men who are running like

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multiple seven figure businesses, and I say, what do you want?

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I'm like, I don't know.

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I'm like, what do you mean you don't know?

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How do you get here and not know what you, but they have no

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clarity and they're burned out.

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They're stressed out.

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So was that.

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And everybody thinks it's so great.

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Totally.

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So it was community clarity.

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Okay.

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Confidence.

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And consistency.

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These are the last two and they're related.

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Okay, so consistency is grit.

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It's showing up day after day, right?

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Steve Jobs said at one point, he said, business at the end of the

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day is just a game of attrition.

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The last person left standing wins, right?

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And so can you continue?

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Can you be consistent with following through?

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That's one of the most I think underrated skills in the world, being

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consistent and hammering out, pursuing this vision, whatever the case is.

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And the reason why that's connected to the last one, which is confidence.

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Is because we break promises to ourselves all the time.

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And I talk a lot about confidence because at the end of the day,

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confidence, a lack of self-confidence comes from when you break promises

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when you're inconsistent with yourself.

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Oh, absolutely.

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Yeah.

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'cause Kimi, if I say to myself, I'm gonna wake up six o'clock in the

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morning and I'm gonna go to the gym, and then the day one, I don't do it.

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Day two, I don't do it.

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What happens?

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Even though no one else knows in my life that I broke this promise inside,

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I know my subconscious mind knows, and it begins to say things like,

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why would anyone ever trust your word if you can't even trust yourself?

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And so you begin to your rapport with yourself begins to erode and

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you begin to lose self confidence.

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Like you would lose confidence in any relationship where

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somebody didn't show up.

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And so the importance of consistency is because you need to make promises

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to yourself and keep them, and that's the way you gain, you regain.

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Self-confidence, you gain self-report, you begin to stack wins.

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And that makes it easier than to be more consistent and to be more confident.

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And there's a concept called the confidence competence loop, which

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is, and you can Google this, it's fascinating, but that's how it works is

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you gain competency because you've been confident in taking that first step.

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And then when you have the confidence to take that first step you do the thing, you

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become more competent, which then makes you more confident to be more competent.

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And before you know it you gain that self-confidence back for, so those four

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things for me are some of the biggest markers of success as people grow.

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It's funny you went into a question.

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I really wanted to.

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To ask you about was consistency, so having a personal and

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professional consistency.

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So a lot of high performers may not have the same level of discipline in

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different sectors of their life, so let's say personally or professionally.

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What kind of, what methods do you teach your client?

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Like you said, I know you said, okay, when you show up for yourself.

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You become more confident in yourself.

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What do you teach as far as fostering consistency in both,

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let's say your career and your like family or personal wellbeing?

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So not having, trying to avoid trade-offs or this black and white oh, I'm doing

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really great at home right now, but I'm really feeling everybody at my

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job, or I'm going up the ladder here, but I haven't been to any of my kids'

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baseball games or taking time to do this.

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And that, so how, what would you, what do you say, what do you give

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as far as coaching tips for that?

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Yeah that's a fantastic question.

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So there's a couple things that come to my mind.

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And it's so funny.

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I was having this conversation with a client this morning and, and he, what

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we need to do is get clear on our why.

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Okay?

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Why are you doing what you're doing?

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Because here's the thing, the moment you say yes to something

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or someone else is getting a no.

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You understand what I mean?

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And so you have to understand what gets my automatic yes.

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Because I know that whatever, get, whatever I choose to give that yes

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to something else and somewhere in my life is gonna get a no.

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When I say yes to this business opportunity, prob that's gonna require

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me to take some evening meetings, that's a no to my wife and kids.

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When I say I'm gonna sleep in and skip the gym, then that's

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a no to my health and wellness.

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So understanding that concept of there is no, you don't have,

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you can't generate more yeses.

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You can't take, make more time than 24 hours.

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And so by virtue of saying yes to something, something else is getting a no.

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And so understanding what are you giving your yes to, because at the

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end of the day, time is the only currency that we spend without

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knowing the remaining balance,

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That's true.

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We spend this currency all the time.

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We don't know what the balance, Kimi, I could get off this call

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and get hit by a bus tomorrow and I just gave you one of the last 60

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minute chunks of my life, right?

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And so we have to get crystal clear on why we're doing what we're doing, right?

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Because if not, we start doing everything everywhere, and we

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get stressed out and we can't.

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We talk about the juggling.

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We're overwhelmed.

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And so I think a lot of people bite off more than they can chew, right?

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And so with my clients, it's that question of what matters the most to you?

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What gets your automatic Yes.

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I had a client who was talking to me the other day about, he was in his office

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working at six thirty at night and he was working on a proposal and he said, yeah,

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my son kept coming in and interrupting me.

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My son kept coming in and he was just an inconvenience, 'cause he

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wanted to throw the ball around and he was distracting me from my work

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and I said, Hey man let's maybe just.

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Pause this for a moment and then think about this.

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What if your son was the work?

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What if your son is the real mission and your, what you're,

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whatever you're working on right now is actually the inconvenience.

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Whatever you're working on right now actually is not the work

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and what you really need to be doing is paying attention to the

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family you're trying to foster.

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And I didn't say hey.

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This is your situation, but what if it was, how do you see your

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children as an inconvenience or do you see them as the mission, right?

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Or is your job the mission?

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And I don't, I'm not gonna judge you if your career is that, and you don't

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care about what, not my place to judge, but it seems as though you don't know.

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Because you talk to me about you wanna be a better father and you

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wanna be a better husband, but yet you keep prioritizing work over them.

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And so what happens is your relationships with your kids deteriorate and your

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wife deteriorates, which makes you more anxious and more frustrated, but yet

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you keep choosing everything over them.

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And so what's the key to contentment?

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Was understanding what gets your yes and being unapologetically about that.

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Yeah.

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I'm not gonna work from 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM I'm gonna spend this time with my family.

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I'm gonna put my kids down and then I'm gonna go to work if I

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You understand what I mean?

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Yeah.

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Creating like boundaries.

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Exactly, that's exactly what it is.

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Creating boundaries and being unapologetically about them and

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communicating those boundaries to those that you love.

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And, maybe if you're listening and you work for a corporation, understanding

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how to comm, how to set up those healthy boundaries with your bosses, your

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colleagues, Hey guys, I'm not gonna take.

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Calls after 7:00 PM or I'm not going to, whatever.

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And I work with CEOs and they're doing it all the time, and I say, listen,

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man, by the very nature of sending that text or sending that email at nine

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o'clock at night, you're then giving your employees permission to do the same

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and to email you back, which then makes it even harder for you not to respond.

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You're modeling, you're always modeling.

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So anyways, that's a that's one thing we talk about.

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It is great too.

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Now you can schedule the emails even if you're doing scheduled

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to send at a different time.

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So it just doesn't feel like you're constantly, I know that it's a big one.

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Constantly feel like you're working around the clock, even if you times are.

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And I think, like you said, I think that helps even when you say that

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too, that can create, honestly, that may even create relief for

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people who you're working with too.

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Hey, we're we have a culture of.

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Boundaries, and people can show up, I think better too when they're per having,

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better success in their own personal lives too, as far as their work performance.

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You think about it like this, can say we're in a situation where I am.

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I am you and I are working together.

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I say Kimi especially if I'm the boss, I say, I'm really trying my

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best not to answer work emails after 6:00 PM 'cause my son has a soccer

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game and I really wanna show up.

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I wanna be a better ho husband.

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Or we gotta, I got a date night with my wife tonight I'm just not,

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I'm not gonna be answering emails.

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Who in the right mind would say, ah, that's ridiculous.

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You should be answering your emails.

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Or you should, I should be No, no one's gonna think that.

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They're gonna be like, that's actually, that's amazing.

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You know what?

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And they're gonna do a self-audit, they're gonna be like, maybe I should do that too,

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because it's contagious and it spreads.

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And so leaders often don't have those conversations because they don't

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wanna appear as weak or not committed when in fact if they did have those

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conversation and have the courage to say it, they'd be respected even more.

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And spread this contagion in a positive note of creating a culture

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of an organization that shows up where it matters most, which is at home.

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Okay, perfect.

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That's perfect.

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That's great.

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So I do wanna talk a little bit more about just legacies.

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You talk a lot and teach a lot about encouraging people, especially dads,

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to build lessing legacies that.

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By thriving to their best of their ability that they wanna

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be in, in many areas of life.

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So you have been leveraging your influence for impact, right?

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So you have the Dad Nation podcast which has a huge humongous reach.

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How do you.

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Ensure your visibility, which is big.

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We talk about that a lot here on the show.

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And how do you effectively leverage your online, like influence your community,

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your equipment to lead their families?

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What have you put in place for yourself as far as like systems

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so that you can maintain like the consistency and impact of your message?

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Because people don't necessarily always understand how.

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Much goes on the backside as far as like content or creating consistency, or you

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have a community, like keeping people engaged is very hard in this day and age.

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Very hard to keep like engagement for stuff that's not the

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latest bad or, things of that.

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So how do you do and what kind of systems have you put in yourself for your pla,

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excuse me, what kind of systems have you put in place for yourself regarding that?

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Yeah, for me it's creating like time blocking, for creating

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time to create content.

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One of the things that I spent the most time on is getting clarity in my message.

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I. I think a lot of people, when they start out in business, they want to they

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want to be all things to all people, and they want to offer, help for everyone.

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And I'm like that's great, but if you're trying to appeal to everybody, you're

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actually appealing to no one, right?

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Because no one feels like you're speaking to them.

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And so for me, the biggest thing that I worked on in the beginning

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was getting, first of all, getting incredibly crystal clear about my

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vision that I'm serving one person.

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I'm serving the career driven man who wants to reclaim their home,

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their health and their happiness.

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That's who I serve, right?

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And so when I write, when I write my content, when I post my Instagram

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posts, when I make, blog posts or coaching videos or whatever, it's all

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based around that one man, and I speak to that man, and when I coach the

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same man over and over again because.

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That's what allows me to become an expert and I can get incredibly surgical

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because it's always the same problems, versus saying I help men be better.

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What does that mean?

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Be better basketball players.

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Very true.

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Very true.

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Better, I don't know.

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Like.

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Better in the kitchen.

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It could be literally anything.

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And so being very clear on your vision and who you're trying to serve is number one.

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So the vision and then the vehicle, like how are you serving them?

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Are you serving them through, so for another thing that I say and

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because a lot of times people ask me, how do you help people?

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I say, I help people through content, through coaching and through courses.

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Those three Cs.

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So content is the donation podcast, right?

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Instagram, things like that.

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The courses is called the High Performance Husband, which is all of my content that I

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teach in a digital course format, and then coaching, which is what I do with the men.

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And so it's very simple.

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If you wanna know how to get help, this is how I do it.

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These are the three things, this is the vision that I do.

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And then, so outside of that, I don't really pay a lot of the time.

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I don't.

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I outsource a lot of the things that, that anyone can do, like responding to emails,

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podcast bookings, things like that.

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Because any, I can get anyone to do that.

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That doesn't require my unique ability, what my unique

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ability needs to be used in.

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Is creating content and helping men with the specific cha

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challenges that they face.

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And only I can do that.

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No one else can do that.

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And it's, it kinda goes back to the Eisenhower Matrix, which I don't know

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if you've have heard of, but essentially the Eisenhower Matrix is a way of

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categorizing what's most important.

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And one of them, and you can Google this at another time, your listeners can, but

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the things that are urgent and important.

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Are the things that need your time and attention.

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You need to execute on those things, but there are a lot of things that

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are important, but not urgent.

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Very good.

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Yeah.

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Okay, this is important.

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Now I need to decide about that.

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I don't necessarily need to do it.

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That might be a date night that needs to happen sometime this week.

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Is that urgent?

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No.

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Or that might be a proposal that needs to be drafted within a month.

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Okay.

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But it's not urgent.

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It's important.

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Now, I still might have to do it, but it's not pressing.

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Right.

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And then there are things that are not important and also not urgent.

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Those are things that I can just delegate, right?

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But the urgent and the important things are the things that only I can do.

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And so for your listeners, if you just Google the Eisenhower Matrix,

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you can see lots of templates.

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I essentially just take my daily tasks and plot them out on the

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matrix, and I say, out of these four quadrants, 'cause that's what it is.

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What do I have to delegate?

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What do I have to delete?

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What I have to decide on.

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And the last thing is, what do I have to do?

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And really the only thing that I personally am doing is the

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urgent and important things.

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'cause those are the only things that only I can do.

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And so for me, that's creating content.

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For me, that's showing up on, coaching calls on podcasts.

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Like obviously nobody can come in and be me on a show.

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But can someone send an email on my behalf?

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Absolutely.

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Can someone manage my calendar?

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Absolutely.

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Can they do my graphic design or edit my podcast episodes?

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Yes.

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So I don't need to do that and I can't afford to do that because I

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have to show up in other powerful ways for my son, for my wife.

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And this goes back to balance, right?

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Understanding that time is the most precious currency we have.

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And because we don't know how much we have left, we need to be very

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intentional about how we spend it.

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So if I only have 60 minutes, then I need to understand the

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best way to use that 60 minutes.

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So I'm gonna pay other people to do the other things, and I'm gonna get

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really focused on what only I can do.

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Does that make sense?

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Only I can love my wife only I can be my A father to my son.

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Okay?

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So I need to be doing that as well, right?

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Okay, Mitchell, so tell us where can the audience find out more All Dead Nation

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and where can they listen to the podcast?

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Just where can the audience go to keep in contact with you and stay

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in alignment with your mission?

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Yeah.

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Thanks for asking and honestly, thank you for just allowing me to share Kimi

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I think that the simplest thing is if this conversation resonated with you and

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you're listening I got a free gift for all of your listeners if they, and it's

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just called the connection code, which is 50 questions to spark the fun and get

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the fire back in your marriage, right?

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So if conversation is grown dull, you feel a little bit more like

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roommates rather than soulmates.

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You know what I mean?

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Sometimes those things happen, and this is just 50 of my favorite

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questions, which is powerful.

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You can use that on date nights.

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You can use it whenever you want to reconnect as a couple.

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So you can download that and I'll give you the link to, you

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can download in the show notes.

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But but then secondly, yeah, listen to the Dad Nation podcast.

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If you're listening on YouTube, subscribe to the channel.

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We have tons and tons of high level guest experts.

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We teach on.

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Fatherhood, we talk about fitness, we talk about finances, we talk about,

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you name it tons and tons of stuff.

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And yeah, you can check out the Dad Nation podcast.

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And if after listening to that stuff you like it, then just hit one of the links.

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I'm you just Google Dad Nation, you'll find me and I'd love to jump on the call.

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And I tell you what, for your listeners who are listening today, if they want

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to have a connect, if they wanna jump on a call with me in the application

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form, which I'll send you the link just make a note that you heard of me

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through this podcast, through early accountability, and I'll make sure

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that I'm the one who shows up on the call and not want someone from my team.

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah.

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I am gonna do it.

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I'm gonna say can't be familiar from the Pill podcast.

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I love it.

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Yes.

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Okay, Mitchell.

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So thank you again so much for being here.

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Leave the audience please leave us with some words that you live by, a mantra

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that you may use to guide yourself.

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Yeah.

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One of the, there's two, for me one of the ones that recently has really

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resonated with me is this idea that time is the only currency you spend

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without knowing the remaining balance.

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The second one for me is that I am the blueprint.

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I'm the blueprint for my children, and so obviously I'm biased 'cause I talk

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to a lot of dads, but the reality is, whether you're listening to this and

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you're a mom or you're listening to this and you're a dad, for me if I want my

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son to grow up and to be a man, a great man or a man who is treats his wife then.

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I'm gonna show, I have to show him how to do that in my life.

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Our children will, they won't always say what we, they won't always

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do what we say, but you better believe they're gonna do what we

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Oh, absolutely.

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And for my daughter, if I want her to marry a good man, a great man who

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loves her, then I need to model that for her so that when she grows up and

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sees greatness, she can recognize it because she's seen it modeled for her.

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So I must become the man I want my son to be.

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I must become the man I want my daughter to marry one day.

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Otherwise, we know statistically they're gonna do whatever we do.

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And so if we have a poor marriage, or if we're making bad choices in our health,

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or if we're making bad choices in our family, we're not showing up, we're not

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loving our wives or ourselves or whatever, and they're, we know, statistically

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speaking, they have an 86% chance of doing the exact same thing as us.

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And so how do we correct that?

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This is what we, when we talk about generational curses, right?

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This is how, this is not theory.

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This is just facts at this point, right?

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And so it, the best way to raise great children, to become great

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adults is to be that version for them to live that way today, right?

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Because you're not raising kids, you're raising adults.

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They're not, they're only gonna be kids for a very short amount of time.

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You're raising adults.

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So you need to help them see that, see greatness in themselves so

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that they can recognize it, right?

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So does that make sense?

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Absolutely.

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But I think that too I think it can be applied to a lot of areas, even when

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you say like in life or at work, because really the ripples of what we do affects

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those around us, whether it's being the leader at job or just actually even.

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Parallel with your coworkers, those kind of things ripple out.

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Yeah, a hundred percent Kimi.

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And I think another thing that I will talk to my clients about

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is just that idea that you.

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Get what you tolerate, right?

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And so you tolerate disrespect or abuse or, lack of boundaries.

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You're giving other people permission to do that as well, right?

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And and the flip side of the inverse.

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If you begin to lead well and make great decisions and prior and, set up

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healthy boundaries and, become a person of discipline, you also encourage and

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inspire other people to do the same.

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And we can think that, oh, nobody sees what I'm doing or I don't have any impact.

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Yes, they yes you do.

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You have no idea how many people you're impacting with the simple dec

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decisions that you think nobody sees.

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But the best way to encourage and impact people around you is to

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do that, to make those decisions.

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'cause you have influence.

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No matter who you are, you have influence over someone.

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John Maxwell says, leadership is influence.

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And so you have leadership somewhere.

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It's just a matter of finding out where that is and making the right decisions

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so that you can model it for those that you are leading, whether your children,

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they're your children, or your employees or your colleagues, whatever the case is.

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Yes.

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Neighbors, what have you, Mitchell, thank you so much.

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We wanna thank Mitchell from that nation again for coming here to be

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a guest on the Early Accountability podcast and to the audience.

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Until next time

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